From the time we are young, we learn to want what others have, to try and fit in, and to conform to what we think society wants from us. We aim to please, follow the rules, and play it safe. And while kindness, generosity, and compassion are important, there’s also something to be said for cutting out the need to be liked and approved of by other people. When you stop caring what other people think and start coloring outside the lines a bit, life can be a whole lot better! If you’re someone who’s a bit of a “people pleaser,” read up: here are four reasons to stop caring what other people think about you.
1. You are the absolute greatest at being yourself.
You are a one of a kind, limited edition, unique masterpiece. You have gifts and abilities that no one else in this world possesses. Hiding your authentic self out of fear that no one will like you is not only necessary, but unfair to the world; you’re keeping your special gifts and talents hidden! Try to see the small miracle it is that you cannot be duplicated. Even if you found an identical twin to wear your clothes and do your job, it would not be you, your thoughts or emotions.
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2. What others think of you is not your business.
How many people really know you? I mean REALLY know you? Most people who judge you really don’t know you, they only observe you. The ones who do know you are not genuinely concerned with every detail of your daily life, just the parts that annoy or affect them. They might be concerned with how your actions will impact others opinions of them because they associate with you. So really, it’s their issue…not yours! A friend of mine once told me “people are going to love you and people are going to hate you and it will have absolutely nothing to do with you.” Keep it simple and just be yourself! Plus, at the end of the day, you can’t control what other people think about you. And why would you waste time on something you can’t control?
3. When people don’t like you, nothing actually happens.
Julien Smith of Breather said that sentence and I just love it because it’s so true. The world doesn’t end, your life doesn’t end. You win some, you lose some. In fact, if someone doesn’t like you, it might be because you’re extraordinary and your awesomeness makes them uncomfortable. Like Marianne Williamson says, there is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. If the people around you don’t like you, it’s time to find new people to be around. Find people who lift you and love you just the way you are!
4. Life is short. Cliche? Yes, but it’s the stone cold truth.
You could spend your whole life trying to be everything to everybody and never succeed. Stick with making the best of your days in your truest form. You will win authentic friendships, happiness and peace in every realm of your world! It’s a form of freedom and when a person feels free to be themselves the magic starts to happen; creativity flows and happiness endures!
Some people waste years of their life fulfilling someone else’s dream or expectation. Be yourself, people will get over it. As Bernard M. Baruch says “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those matter don’t mind.”
“When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all of your thoughts break their bonds. Your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties and talents come alive and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be.” – Patanjali