The Mindset Shift You Need To Finally Lose The Weight

Fitness: Weight Loss

By: // June 12, 2015

Do you ever get in your own way and make life harder than it needs to be? Do you self-sabotage and make choices you know aren’t good for you… like plopping down on the couch with a bag of chips or a pint of ice cream after a stressful day? Maybe you skip a workout and justify it with excuses? You tell yourself you will never be able to lose the weight, get fit, eat healthy or run a 5k. Turns out we are pretty good at creating obstacles for ourselves when our self-worth is a little shaky. The culprit is usually an underlying belief that you don’t deserve to have the life of your dreams. But at Get Healthy U, we want you to get rid of all that self-doubt and stop letting your weight get in the way of your goals. Which is why we want you to consider this question: What have you always wanted to do but haven’t because of your weight? 

I asked this question on my Facebook page and the answers came pouring in; they were eye-opening. So many of you aren’t doing the things you want to because of your weight—from wearing a bikini on a beach to feeling confident about who you are. Your weight has become a barrier between you and the life you imagine. And that make me sad!

Which is why I encourage you to turn that one thing you aren’t currently doing into your biggest motivator for weight loss and a lifestyle change.  Use your goal to pull you into the direction you want to go.

Create visual reminders.

If you say, “I want to be happy looking in the mirror” read it every morning and let it motivate you to take that walk.

Jot down: “I want to run” if that’s your goal and turn it into your rocket fuel to join the couch to 5k program.

If a bikini isn’t your thing, but you want to feel comfortable at the beach, buy a swimsuit of your choice that makes you feel good. When you feel good about you, it’s easier to make good choices for your body.

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Use your goals as a compass.

Goals and self-improvement challenge us and give us something meaningful to work toward. When we work on achieving our goals, we feel engaged and happier because we are actively taking action to make our lives even better. If you don’t let anything get in the way of you and your goals, your self-worth goes up because you are telling yourself that you are worth it!

Be happy now.

Whether you want to feel more confident, or be able to hike, you can still be happy in this very moment. I am all about goal-setting, but don’t hang your happiness on that goal. If you aren’t going to be happy until “blank”, then you are postponing the happiness you could feel right now. Before you know it the days, months and years go by. Happiness is a choice.  Focus on the positives in the present to help fuel your future.  Start to enjoy this moment and the journey.

Love yourself throughout the process.

While you can use your goals as motivators, remember to love yourself throughout the process. I believe you can’t make positive change from a negative mindset. You are probably good at being kind to others, so dole out some of that kindness on yourself. Don’t let the scale determine your self-worth. Guess what, it’s okay to love yourself AND want to improve. Nothing good is born out of self-loathing.

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You don’t have to be perfect.

Magazines, TV shows and Facebook status updates can easily make us all feel like we don’t measure up. You don’t have to weigh a certain amount to be happy. You don’t have to look a certain way to be self-accepting. You don’t have to skip the beach because you don’t like how your thighs look. Let the things you want to do encourage you instead of becoming roadblocks. One way to become encouraged is to realize no one is perfect and you don’t need to be either.

You deserve to do all the wonderful things you want to do with your life. Let those things get you excited and motivated to achieve them. Don’t let anything stop you from living the life you desire. Use that fire within you to start to lose the weight.

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on June 6, 2016 at 1:56 PM Reply

Hi Chris -- I love your emails and recipes -- the flaxseed muffin in a mug is my go-to breakfast item! I truly don't do much strength exercises and over age 50, I really want this to be my primary focus of workouts going forward. Is it possible to put together a program at home that will cover all of the muscle groups? How do I get started? Appreciate your input!!

    on June 7, 2016 at 2:07 PM Reply

    Hi Tracey. I love hearing that! We have several workouts and workout calendars for you to follow over at - you can pick whatever workout you're looking for and do it at home for only $10 a year with the code Chris10 - I hope you workout with me!

on April 10, 2016 at 9:24 PM Reply

Hi Chris. I love your emails. I have chronic migraine. I've had it for 6 years. Since I started eating again and have had some meds that cause weight gain, it's been extremely difficult to do any type of real exercise. If my heart rate goes up, it triggers me. I try to use resistance bands and a kettle bell to do floor exercise when I'm on a low pain day, but I don't really see any change. I don't expect to. It's more for my mental health. My doctors have all said that in chronic pain I need to just pace and do what I can and that my body is in a state of stress. So it will not want to be more stressed. What do you think? Walking is difficult most days for any extended period of time. Chest pain is part of my condition. I used to do Leslie Sansone walking with weights before it got much worse. I want to lose about 20 pounds. It's depressing. But pain makes it so difficult to handle many situations.

    on April 18, 2016 at 4:25 PM Reply

    Hi Lindsay - I'm so sorry to hear that, I feel badly for you. I think you might need to tackle the headache problem and then hopefully the other things will improve. Have you tried chiropractic care, acupuncture or more holistic doctors? I've had friends who have had success with these treatments. Again, sorry to hear about the headaches and I hope you find relief soon!

on July 12, 2015 at 3:22 AM Reply

I love your posts and normally find them very motivational. I was hoping this one would be the same. There are numerous things I'd like to accomplish that I feel my weight has held me back from, and as I've been losing weight, some of those things have been happening. One of the biggest things is something you mention...I want to feel happy with who I see looking back at me when I look in the mirror. I have to admit, the reverse is happening. As I workout and work hard to lose weight that seemed so easy to put on, I see rolls of excess saggy skin and stretch marks that look worse on that deflated skin. Both being things that will no never away no matter how hard I work out, which is very defeating. Putting in hard work, and seeing that for results is not easy, and often makes me feel like my effort is in vain.

    on July 13, 2015 at 4:48 PM Reply

    Thank you for writing to me and congratulations on your weight loss. I think you should first congratulate yourself and celebrate your wins before you focus on stretch marks and saggy skin. You are improving your weight, your health and your body. Make sure you don't forget how amazing it is that you are investing in your health. Your hard work and efforts aren't in vain! Also, are you doing strength training? I have an Exercise Library with all sorts of strength training exercises you can do to tighten and tone. There are also ways to get rid of excess skin but you would need to talk to your doctor about that process. You need to give yourself some love for all that you have accomplished so far! Make a list of your wins!

on June 30, 2015 at 7:08 AM Reply

Hi Chris, Love, love, LOVE your wonderful and inspirational (and easy-to-follow) emails! I switched to meatless meals a few times a week and wanted to let you know your Spicy Black Bean Burgers were AWESOME! My husband actually ate two of them and asked when we were having them again (from a man that told me he'd never be happy without meat and potatos)! You really make eating healthy fun and delicious. Thank you so much for your inspiration and encouragement.

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